Sometimes I say the stupidest things!
I did that yesterday. Online somewhere and within a few minutes realized how it might have sounded and deleted it. It wasn't meant in the way it sounded. Sometimes the gift of words doesn't really apply to me.
No one said anything about being offended by it, hopefully not many people saw it while the comment was still up, but I felt bad about it all day long. Then this morning I woke up with a headache. And my teeth clenched which probably gave me the headache in the first place. And my shoulders are extremely tense.
It's like the time I forgot to drain the fat off the meat in a soup that went to a church potluck. No one really ate my soup. And I know why, {grease sitting on top of your soup isn't really appetizing!} and I don't blame them but I felt horrible about it for weeks afterward! I imagine they all think I'm a horrible cook now! And no, it wasn't on the chili that almost won a cookoff either, that was meatless {and fabulous btw}!
Sigh.
We all make mistakes.
But this is one of the areas I need to work on to achieve my goal of inner peace.
I need to make peace with my mistakes. Process my feelings on the subject quickly so I can move onward and upward. Hanging on to this serves no one ~ especially me. Being held captive by emotions is no way to live.
So I started today out with hydration. A nice cool glass of water. And an energy healing session with myself. Now I need a trip to the spa for a good massage to release some of this tension built up in my shoulders.
So as my niece and nephews like to tease me with
{and I know they read my blog ~ hi cute kiddos!}:
"Tap it out! Tap it out!"
I know it sounds funny,
but the techniques I use really do help!
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My question for you today:
How do you treat yourself kindly when you make a mistake?
How do you get rid of stress in your life?
I do this to myself ALL the time. I am the last person to ask how to treat myself kindly after I put my foot in my mouth. I marinate in it for days, thinking of every possible scenario! It's awful.
ReplyDeleteI hope some of your other readers can offer some sage advice, because I could use some too!
You are awesome!! I love this post!! (you know why)
ReplyDeleteMy advice to Adrienne, learn how to forgive yourself.. Just say it out loud to yourself. That's what I do. Sounds pretty simple, but it is amazingly affective, because you are making it a choice/action. It works.
I like that idea of saying it out loud, I'm going to try that next time. Running (especially trail running away from the noise of the modern world) really helps me get rid of built up stress.
ReplyDeleteOh Adrienne! Marinating and stewing in it is awful isn't it? Anne's verbal forgiveness tip reminds me of a Hawaiian forgiveness technique I heard once. I had to look it up, it's called Ho’oponopono.
ReplyDelete"The theory is that everything and everyone that comes into your life is a reflection of your own self and your own state. So it is actually yourself you must heal no matter where you see the problem.
You do this by saying repeatedly to the “Divine” the following four phrases:”Please forgive me, I’m Sorry, I love you, and Thank you”, at the same time focusing on the problem to be dealt with."
Interesting, eh? I think I'm going to give it a shot and see what happens! :D
And Eliza ~ I'm finally finding my groove again in regards to exercise {after nearly two years of regular exercise~ugh!}. It is finally coming together because I am using the time to meditate on God, love, and gratitude. It's been amazing. I imagine trail running is a very similar experience by getting away from everything!
I used to beat myself up, but I was a young perfectionist. Now I'm a wizened pseudo-perfectionist who is learning to live life without being fully in control. I make social blunders (made one on Wednesday!, very bad...), but I shrug very French-like and say, "What can I do?" I really, really try not to fret over it. Most likely, the social gaffe you made is forgotten within 48 hours.
ReplyDeleteI found this very helpful, thought I would share.
ReplyDeletehttp://tamarasbook.blogspot.com/2010/02/fred-on-forgiveness-heals-physically.html